The Reason People Cheat...

...I would like to talk a little today about cheating. There are a few different concepts of cheating and men and women both view these differently. Some say that it's not really cheating unless you are married. Some say it's okay as long as you don't get caught. Other people believe it is a betrayal that is difficult to forgive, and still others see it as a sin. The problem is that both men and women have their own opinions in the matter. This is because like it or not, we are wired differently. Take men for instance. They enjoy the excitement of the chase way more than women and they take their trophies in sexual conquests, where as women see it as more of a courting ritual and their trophies are relationships. Men are a lot less likely to get emotionally attached than women are, and show surprising resilience after a break up. Women are emotionally attached to everything, and are devastated after a break up. With men, their emotions do not in any way whatsoever affect what they do from day to day. With women, any little action made means some show of some emotion. So when women cheat, they tend to try to maintain some sort of relationship with the person, allowing themselves to imagine emotions that aren't really there because they want for them to be so badly. When men cheat it is merely for the conquest of the chase for the most part, no emotion involved. There are a few exceptions to this rule, however. For instance in a situation where a man has a mistress. The man actually has feelings for the mistress and the woman he is in a relationship with. In essence, he is in a relationship with them both. This is a decision the man has made due to some part of his happiness he does not get from his woman, some satisfaction that he needs to look elsewhere to fulfill. Also, for instance when a woman has a lover. The woman really has feelings for the man, but the lover may give her the affection or attention that she does not get at home. So she maintains a relationship with them both, giving each what they need and still receiving what she needs in return. Another exception is one night stands. In this situation neither the man or the woman are looking for anything permanent or continuous. It is merely for sexual pleasures on both parts and no emotion or personal information are really shared. When it is over, they part and are nothing more than strangers once again. No matter what the situation is, things like this happen everyday. The only way to even try to prevent it is to attempt to be everything your significant other needs, to ensure that you fill all of their needs and that they are completely satisfied. This is no easy feat for any one person which when it all boils down, is the reason people cheat...